“In my life, I’ve never wished that everything goes smoothly or satisfactorily, or that I may be free of any adversity. When encountering an adverse situation, I cope with it in this way: First I will tell myself, “If there’s a mountain in my way that can’t be removed, I will make a detour. If no detour can lead to my destination, I will change my way of thinking.” Once you change your thinking, the difficult situation you’re facing will no longer exist, which will naturally lead you to a new way out. Another way is to “face it, accept it, deal with it, and let it go.” There are problems that simply cannot be solved no matter how hard we try. In that case, we should accept the reality. In a way, accepting the reality amounts to dealing with it. And then you should let it go. Having let it go, you shouldn’t allow it to prey on your mind any longer and keep regretting and resenting. If you’re still caught up in regret and resentment, you’ll have twice as much bad luck because your confidence and courage have disappeared. During my most difficult time, it is as if I have been tied up all over with ropes, but my mind can still be doing taijiquan with freedom. As long as I don’t think I’m having bad luck, nothing can really annoy me.”
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